Have you ever noticed that when you focus your mind on what you don’t want, you almost always attract exactly what you are trying not to?  Since most of us are visual people, the only way to focus on what we don’t want is to actually picture what we don’t want in our minds.  For example, if you tell yourself not to drop something, you have to actually picture yourself dropping it in your mind, and then try to focus on not doing that.  The end result is that your mind doesn’t recognize the fact that you don’t want to drop it, but rather focuses on what you picture in your mind, which is dropping the object, and, of course, that’s exactly what you do! 

To avoid this problem, you have to focus on the positive outcome you want, not the negative one.  In this example, you need to focus on holding onto the object, instead of not dropping it.  So, how do you end this problem once and for all?  Simply remove the following words and phrases from your vocabulary:

But 

This word effectively erases everything said before it!  When you say, “I totally agree with you, but”, what you are really saying is that you don’t agree at all. 

If 

Presupposes that you won’t take action 

Would, should, and could 

These words focus on the past, and things that never happened, things that you feel guilty about not happening, and things that didn’t happen and you try to take credit for. 

Try and might 

These words give you a way out, or an option to not succeed. 

Can’t and don’t 

Causes you to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want to manifest 

By focusing on the positive outcomes you want to create for yourself, and eliminating the above words from your vocabulary, you’ll train your mind to focus on what you want, and that’s exactly what you’ll attract!

Tom Kelly is a Profession Business Coach that specializes in working with small business owners, entrepreneurs, and salespeople. He can be reached at (773) 907-0921, or at www.potentialinmotion.com. 

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